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KIRA M. \u00a0| \u00a0CLINICAL PSYCHOLOGIST<\/p>\n

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Helping your kids cope<\/strong> with stress
and isolation<\/em><\/p>\n

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I think it’s incredibly weird if at some point
a parent says<\/strong> or doesn’t\u00a0think that I think every parent says I’m not cut out for this,\u00a0<\/strong>especially during a pandemic \u2014 nobody is.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

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This is not the year for new math
<\/strong>You know, as a teacher and educator \u2014 and my parents were educators \u2014 I don\u2019t want to get in trouble by saying this, but this is not the year to focus on the new math. It is not about curriculum. It is not about educational milestones, per say. I think one of the most valuable things that parents can do for their kids right now is to model for them how to work on emotion regulation and how to work on stress management.<\/p>\n

And you don\u2019t have to do it successfully. I\u2019m not saying that a parent has to figure that all out, know how to do it, but showing kids the struggle of the process. And man, you lose it sometimes and then you say, \u201cHey, you know, mom just really lost her temper there. Sorry for snapping. I\u2019m going to try and take a deep breath. I\u2019m going to try and figure out what my options are.\u201d That\u2019s really hard to do! The rest of the stuff, in my opinion as a psychologist at least, that\u2019s not as important.\n<\/p>\n

Work on modeling the effort
<\/strong>In terms of coming out of this pandemic, the most important thing for kids and especially for parents who are really struggling emotionally right now is to figure out how they can work on showing effort to kids \u2014 working on the effort and modeling the effort, because that\u2019s the kind of stuff that is going to stick with them. They\u2019ll catch up on math. They\u2019ll catch up on spelling. We don\u2019t need to worry about that. You know, Paw Patrol has its place and the bar is low. That\u2019s totally OK.<\/p>\n

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\u2026parents in general need to\u2026 just be nicer to themselves.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

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I think another thing parents in general need to do is just be nicer to themselves. Recognize that you cannot hold yourself accountable to the same level of parenting or the same level of support for your kids that you would expect. You are in a disaster. Disasters are different. And when the circumstances change, your expectations can change. But right now we just got to be nice and be more kind to ourselves and to other people and to recognize that the real important things are those relationships and kids getting to see us work through this difficult thing.<\/p>\n

That’s what will really last. The rest of it can wait or can get dealt with later.<\/p>\n

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