{"id":11670,"date":"2021-06-30T12:12:08","date_gmt":"2021-06-30T19:12:08","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/brianselfdesign.com\/amindfulstate\/?p=11670"},"modified":"2021-12-03T18:09:13","modified_gmt":"2021-12-04T02:09:13","slug":"antoinette_always_power_through","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/brianselfdesign.com\/amindfulstate\/antoinette_always_power_through","title":{"rendered":"<strong>Nobody should have to live in a state of<\/strong> suppressing who they are\u2026 <br><br><h6> \u2014ANTOINETTE G.<\/h6>"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>[et_pb_section fb_built=&#8221;1&#8243; _builder_version=&#8221;4.9.3&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; background_color=&#8221;#eae9e4&#8243; custom_margin=&#8221;30px||0px||false|false&#8221; custom_margin_tablet=&#8221;-30px||||false|false&#8221; custom_margin_phone=&#8221;-30px||||false|false&#8221; custom_margin_last_edited=&#8221;on|phone&#8221; custom_padding=&#8221;0px||0px||false|false&#8221;][et_pb_row column_structure=&#8221;1_3,1_3,1_3&#8243; 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I am 44 years old. I am a manager for the state of Washington; I manage people and facilities and do a lot. I have an older son who\u2019s awesome. I have a daughter who graduated from high school last year.<\/p>\n<p><strong>My motto in life has always been power through.<br \/><\/strong>Survival of the fittest: power through, push, persevere, endure, mind over matter. That\u2019s how I survive very, very difficult situations. I just never wanted to appear weak. I haven\u2019t really had the room to be vulnerable and let my guard down in many situations, both professionally and personally. I don\u2019t think it\u2019s acceptable in the workplace for me as a Black woman and also as a Black woman in a leadership position. I feel like you have to present yourself in such a way where you have it together all the time. 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